Growth & Grace

Wesley Knight 0:00
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Leaha Crawford 0:35
we back and we back and we back and we back and we back. Do. Happy New Year. Happy New Year. Hey. Well, the show was taped, so we in here before New Year's taping the show, but it is Saturday morning when it airs. So we gonna do? What are you gonna do? What are you gonna I don't know. We did a whole bunch, I mean, whole bunch of different stuff, but it's good that we were able to that we were able to get in and get it. You know, it's New Year's Eve now, but, yeah, it's New Year's Eve today, but when it's when this airs, it's going to be on the second. So we would have done all the things. So let me tell you. Let me ask you this. I was listening thinking about one of our past shows, and with one of our guests, Mr. Marcus Allen, talking about how to prepare for a year that it takes a year to plan, yeah, for a year. And honestly, that's been resonating with me. What about you?

Julian Rosado 1:37
Yeah, that's when you said that. So actually, my astronomy, I don't know if you believe in that,

Leaha Crawford 1:45
okay, but Mr. Aquarius,

Julian Rosado 1:48
when I just said that, he said, Mr. Aquarius, no, my astronomy said that this upcoming year, this is going to be a good year, so I'm actually feel like things are lined up pretty well. So, yeah, I believe that. I think so, thinking, taking, realizing what's important, and focusing on that, and really just enjoying things, the little thing. So you're not out there hustling and bustling, you know, and so you're just enjoying the small thing, and you're focusing on what's really important. And I remember that when when things were really going well, I was just focused on what's important, enjoying the little thing. And then I found my life really progressing, you know what I mean? And, yeah, and yeah, yeah.

Leaha Crawford 2:42
Well, it's interesting, because this past week, a college friend passed away. I'm sorry, yeah, Mr. Jarell Allen. He was in the Atlanta area, and it's, you know, when you get and people start transitioning, I guess you really start looking at like differently. And we wasn't married, no children, but just a beautiful soul. And I was sitting there as I had gotten to talk to some of my friends that are living in Atlanta as this was going on, and just thinking about

Leaha Crawford 3:16
one day at a time. And like you said, you know, just enjoying life and practicing grace, yeah, and being grateful, even when things don't seem like they're going right, nope, yep, just being grateful.

Julian Rosado 3:29
And you'll see the progression happen. The Universe started to work that work its self out, because I found out when, whenever I start to to say, like, Nope, I have to do this. I have to do this. I have to have to do this. I really start to hone in on certain things. And then things sort of slowly, pick away, pick away, pick away. Instead of just me taking it easy, relax, just enjoying, like, the little days and like, join like, when I wake up, have breakfast. Be graceful. I'm having breakfast right now. I'm doing my coffee.

Leaha Crawford 4:04
Yeah, just a little things, yeah, little things. But what I can say is, you know what your story is. Whatever you tell yourself is true, Oh, yeah. And whatever you tell yourself is true. So if you tell you, if you tell yourself that stuff is hard, then guess what? It's gonna be hard. But if you tell yourself, I got this? Yeah. Then guess what, things start to unfold and say that you got this. But I also, I guess, when I think about a lot of the guests that we've had on this year from Sally Allen and Tracy Durant, again, the bank, you know, Lamont and, yeah, Lamont Fitz. Lamont, yeah, Lamont Fitz and Keith Jackson, and just grateful that we were able to that those people took time, yeah, to come on the show and just give and to talk about, you know, their life's journey. Because I think sometimes. When you're going through stuff, you really can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. All you can see is what's going on, what's wrong and what's not going right. And again, who are the people around you? And I'm blessed, because I love my my, my inner circle is, you know, they tell you, know, they tell you in a minute, okay, you got three minutes to complain. Now, what we doing, they just, what we say is, unpack, unpack it. Unpack the bag. Now, how are we gonna pack it back up with some good stuff so that you can grow in it? And, you know, what type of life do you want to leave? Do you want this chaotic life, or do you want a calm, peaceful life? Yeah. And, you know, doing the things that say you want a calm, peaceful life, or if you want a chaotic life, you do the things that create chaos. And but I think you are the you know. You are your man, you are the designer, you are the painter in your life. Yeah, I don't

Julian Rosado 6:01
think people realize how powerful like you are. People think, Oh, you have to, if you really go to school and all this, like, No, you you really can control all this. Yes, it does require schooling. Does require education, but Well, it depends really you can control all this. And it really, just, really depends on connection. If you just go out there, you meet the right person. You know all all this stuff is really just based on, I'm pretty sure you know, like, how do you how did that person get that job? They knew somebody.

Leaha Crawford 6:33
Sometimes I even think about that though, right? Because it's not always who you know, but who knows you exactly, who knows you, and what type of person are you? Yeah, yeah. Do you keep your word? Are you on Yeah, yeah, you know, do you pay your bills on time? I mean, just, do you do little things? And are you considerate? Are you rude? You You know, who are you? And once you do the analysis about who you are, if you don't like something, guess what? You can change it. Yeah, yeah, you can change it. You know, you can change it. But no, sitting there I was, I listened to the interview with Marcus Allen a few times, and as I was listening to it, each time, I picked up something else. Like he was like, I was like, No, who's your partner? Because he does so many things, and he's like, God, is my partner? And I had to sit and resonate with that, like, wow. He was like, I I didn't, I mean, he went to Barber College. I mean, barber school, of course, but he was like, I'm a businessman. I've never been to no classes, none of that I learned by doing. And was it, was I scared, yes, through traveling there, but I tried now. I mean, you're talking about multi properties later, you know, he

Julian Rosado 7:43
is like multiple you gotta understand that's has massive stressful,

Leaha Crawford 7:48
no, but, but residential and commercial?

Julian Rosado 7:52
Yeah, no, that's massive stressful. But for you to be completely, you know at ease with that, that shows a level of even, kill even.

Leaha Crawford 8:01
Well, the thing about it is, is that, and don't get me wrong, sometimes he gets stressed, but when you ever, you talk to him, it's, you know, happy, you know, God bless morning. He was like, you know, he's all he always say, Have a blessed day. Yeah, blessings here, blessings there. And like, right now. No, he they're about to gear up for this 21 day fast. And you know, it's on Facebook, and you should hear the people just, just, really, just talking about, you know, what can you eat for the 21 days? And just the things you go through the 21 days when you're trying, well, when you're working, to eat differently, doing a Daniel fast, because it is interesting, because it's no animal product. Have you ever tried that? I have. I've done it. How was it? It was it was it was, yo, it was different. I did it. I finished it. It was different. And actually I incorporated differently throughout the year. Yeah, and

Julian Rosado 8:56
how did you feel after amazing?

Leaha Crawford 8:58
Yeah, amazing. It's just getting too amazing. It's like going to hot yoga, right? So have you ever been hot yoga? No, okay, so hot yoga before? No. So hot yoga is, you're in this room. It's probably 110 115, degrees and humidity. Oh, wow. And you're doing poses. So I remember my first class, and I was sitting there like, Who in the world does

Julian Rosado 9:19
this and pay for and pay for it.

Leaha Crawford 9:21
Right by my 100th class, I absolutely love it is, you know, I love it that is actually my preferred is to go to Hot Yoga and to sit there in that hot room and do the poses, because your your body is taken to, you know, a different level, because you're thinking, you know, sometimes I got to get out of here. No, you don't. You can make it through, but what you feel afterwards is amazing, yeah, and I know I enjoy it, of course, I know the posture is by heart, but just going through the postures, the. With different teachers doing different poses. And when I'm actively, like, I haven't been active in it properly in like, maybe seven months. But when I'm actively going, and I can go at 530 in the morning and start your day, Oh, wow. 530 Yeah, 536 o'clock in the morning, yeah, man, best days. Shit, best days. But I'm learning, like, when you do some type of physical activity, because I've had times when I have done physical activity and times when I have not, you see, you can see the difference,

Julian Rosado 10:30
man, so you see your health increasing.

Leaha Crawford 10:33
You can see, yeah, I mean, you actually see, you feel it. I know people talk about it, you know, proper diet, and I don't have time to exercise, and I'm like, even a little thing, like walking around, around your block, yeah, just doing something, yeah.

Julian Rosado 10:49
I doctor, you know, the other day, and he was like, how's your vision? So I was like, I don't know. I think my eyesight is improving, because I gotta take my glasses off to see stuff. When I see stuff closer. I was like, am I my getting Superman ability? I was like, my, I think I'm eating healthy. I was like, like, No, you're getting older. Oh, man, I I didn't know that. He was like, Yeah, well, you probably, you know, say, may need, like, bifocals or something like like that. And so he said, It's just what happens when you get older, and so you have to up dose, my, my, my glasses. So, so you thought you were getting, I know, getting better. I thought, like, man, what am I eating? Am I doing something better? Because my glass is not working.

Leaha Crawford 11:35
No more they not working. Just can't see it look worse. But then that's another thing too, right? Like, what I love about the beginning of the year is it's time for you to for, you know, for all of us, just to take a healthy look at where you are. That's why I love, I mean, like journaling. So when you're writing down your thoughts, and you're writing down your journal, and you can look back and see what was a good day. What wasn't a good day? What was going on at that time?

Leaha Crawford 12:05
I even sometimes do like I am grateful, yeah, and write five things every day that I'm grateful for. And I sometimes I look back at the book and I can tell days I wasn't grateful because I didn't write anything down. Yeah, sometimes it's months without things being written down, but then always not being critical of myself, but being graceful, and saying, okay, when those things are going on, that's the time when you need to really get down and really tune in and find something that you're grateful for, because it's something you're grateful for. Yeah, absolutely, you know. And like, the name of the show growth and grace, yeah? And just knowing that whenever you're growing, you know, growing sometimes it's growing pains or, you know, it's, it's, it's magnificent growth.

Julian Rosado 12:50
Yeah, yeah. I even think therapy, I don't know some people, holds a bad rap, but I had a therapist for almost two years now, and probably for like, the first year I was still He told her he was all right, yeah. I was like, she probably

Leaha Crawford 13:09
said something like, Yeah. He crazy, yeah.

Julian Rosado 13:13
And then later on, that's exactly what she said. She said the people who are most protected she can tell, and she said, those are the people that she has to really spend more time, time with, and the people that come out and just say, like, everything, you know, everything, what's wrong? She said, Okay, these are, you know, these

Leaha Crawford 13:31
are, well, because it's healthy, because the thing about it, but sometimes it's your view of something, yeah, right. And, and some communities do have a bad rap on going to therapy. You don't need no therapist. And I'm like, Yeah, mental health is real. Yeah, yeah. And, you know, just taking care of your mental on a regular basis. You know, I was having a conversation with someone, and we were talking about, they were on retired military, and they were talking about how they don't watch television, or they don't watch like, like shoes shows with a whole bunch of activity like the killings, and they don't watch that stuff, because it's like, that's a trigger for me. So I have, I gotta watch, you know, I'm watching you know, movies that make you cry. I'm watching you know, holiday movies, because I know that that's a trigger for me. And I was like, Oh, wow. And she, she just was like, you know, it's hard. And I understand when people, you know, talk about just your environment, what you're around, what you're exposed to. I was like, Well, what if you really can't afford to be or go anywhere? She was like, Leah, well, how was your house? Yeah, is your house peace, you know? Is your house clean? Is this stuff everywhere, you know, no, take the time. Spend some time with you. She was like, a lot of us don't want to spend time with by ourselves, yeah, you know, they we don't want to spend time alone. We always have to be out, going, moving, doing something, doing this, doing that. She was like, Can you just be still? Yeah, yeah. And how are you if you just be still? Yeah? It's like, oh yeah.

Julian Rosado 14:59
My therapist. She always finds me. She said, Whenever you feel like backed up in the mind, you're always constantly going, this is basically your mind just replaying what happened already in the past. You're not thinking about what future could hold. Who said, so this is what you should do, go for a walk. But when you're walking, you're constantly playing and you're overseen, yeah, yeah, I should have done this, or this should happen. But you go for a walk, and then you think about something that made you really happy, something in past that made you really happy, some something fun, or whatever. You play this over, and then this could slightly lead you into something that you should do in the future. Do you know what I mean? And then this gets you in a complete calm state, calms down. She said, medically calms down, like everything you know.

Leaha Crawford 15:50
Talk about breathing exercises, yes, different debacle, yeah.

Julian Rosado 15:55
But she said, definitely go for a walk. But this just helps when you when you go for a walk and, like, a peaceful area and everything. It helps, yeah, yeah. It's different, yeah, yeah. Is it just sitting there, like, you know, mellowing it in your thoughts and everything, yeah?

Leaha Crawford 16:11
But sometimes we give when you're sitting in your thoughts, yeah?

Julian Rosado 16:14
It takes you. It takes you. Have to be really trained. You do. You have to train your brain.

Leaha Crawford 16:19
That's a little different. That's what. Yeah, we could find somebody that's a specialist in that. And specialist in that and bring them and bring them on so they

Julian Rosado 16:25
can talk about it. But you got to go for a walk.

Leaha Crawford 16:30
You got to do something. But what I also know is, what is, what is what you're listening to? What are you listening to regularly? What are you do you know how to create a peaceful space, like I had to learn how to create a peaceful space. How do you do that? Oh, it's a lot. So first it was I had to be peaceful because it was me, because I take me wherever I go, and it was the types of things that we were listening to regularly, what like, music, music, okay, different music and stuff. And I found that I was, what I was drawn to was R, B, jazz, something with, you know, something smooth, something mellow. And then what I found was the colors I was around. So I painted my house a different color, painted my house a different color, and it gave a different energy, yeah? I painted it a different color, yeah? And I painted it so I didn't go, I didn't hire anyone, Me and Me and My handyman. We took the time and we painted each room. That's more appreciation. Oh, yeah. And, but go, Yeah, more appreciation. And then I know I got jazzy with it. I wanted different colors, different, you know, this color light, lighter this wall, lighter than this wall. Then it was carefully picking out everything that I wanted in the house where, you know, where did I want? Did I want new appliances? Did I want? What did I want in the house and sitting in rooms and letting the rooms talk to me? Because I hadn't lived in the house for years before, I didn't had done it. Didn't had done anything. And my handyman, he was like, no, let the house talk to you. The house will tell you. Then it was the plan. So he thought when I first bought the first plan, he was like, yeah, it's not gonna last that long. Now, 12 plans later, he's sitting there. He was like, Oh my God, everything flourishes in the house, and I'm like, yeah. I was like, but I've changed, because I realized being angry, I wasn't hurting anybody, but me right, being angry, always finding the fault in something, yeah, so in everything, there's beauty. And my daughter gets told me, You're too forgiving. I was like, No, I always wasn't too forgiving. I'm like, but now I ask for forgiveness. So I mean, I can forgive you, yeah, doesn't mean that I'm going to deal with you again, but I'm not upset with you. I just know what I want in my life, and then I became very protective about what I want in my life. I'm still kind, but maybe I don't need to be. I don't need to go here, yeah? Because when I go here, I'm true, yeah? Or this person with their attitude, like, I got a phone call, and the person is very rowdy, very loud, and, you know, and after about 30 minutes, and when I talk and I was like, Okay, I'll talk to you probably about six seven months. Wow, because I'm good for about six or seven months, but not I didn't have I realized I didn't have to be rude to protect myself.

Julian Rosado 19:33
What do you have to say to people that like that, like I because no, what do you I have a friend that he's like in a relationship, and they argue a lot, and he says, Yeah, I kind of like it. Oh, man,

Leaha Crawford 19:49
if that's what they like. I

Julian Rosado 19:51
mean, do you know that? You probably know that too. I

Leaha Crawford 19:53
know some people that live like that. I do. I do. I don't go see them. And they wonder why they're like, are you coming to see. Like, why? Because it's a lot. It's a lot. And I look because it's just, you know, me and my son in my house, and we laugh because it's peaceful, yeah, you know, he's talking about the loudest thing in here is you. I was like, Yeah, that's true. I am the loudest. But what I love is, if people like that, then that's fine. That's not what I love. So most of the people that I'm around are very peaceful, calm. They might raise their voice when they get excited, every once in a while, yell at a football game, whatever. But they are very calm. People very calm. They meditate. We can have disagreements agreeably like we might, because it's foolish to say that you always agree with everybody. That's not the case. But how do you disagree? The market out there for everything. So, right? It's a market out there for everything. So it's how do you disagree? And am I do? I want to be around a person when they get mad, they're flipping desk, and they got to throw stuff and they got to, I know, Hey, be do go over there.

Julian Rosado 21:08
I will do that for a Cowboys fan. You know, you haven't won a playoff game in decades, well?

Leaha Crawford 21:14
And even, even with that, like, I look, I mean, I look at like, I have a lot of friends that are Cowboys fans, right? And when the Eagles lost to the Cowboys, they were sending me all types of memes, and I was cracking up because they were funny, right?

Julian Rosado 21:26
They couldn't wait. Because,

Leaha Crawford 21:33
can you, if you can dish it, can you take it?

Julian Rosado 21:37
Right? No, because not, well, no, they can't.

Leaha Crawford 21:40
No, they can't. No, my friends did, because when the Cowboys didn't make the playoffs, oh, I had a bunch of them for them. I was sending them back, and they were cracking up. They was like, Oh, that was a good one. But it's one of those things where, how do you identify yourself? Who are you? How do you identify yourself? And for me, it's like, I'm having this human experience, and I don't identify myself with all the accolades that I have earned. Now, I've earned a bunch of stuff, right? But I don't

Julian Rosado 22:08
know you earned a lot like, but that's one time I ordered send a trophy to your room. So you want to take a picture, no, you just put it over there.

Leaha Crawford 22:15
But it's but it's one of those, because those things don't define me. I do the work that I do because I enjoy it like right now, I guess for our listeners, if you we're working with a cohort for older adults that have accounting degrees and that want to get their CPA license. So it's a program that I went through, and we're about to start our cohort in January, and I am one of the mentors that I'm going to help some people from around the country. So it's not just here Las Vegas around the country, because it's virtual, and they'll have classes just so you can catch up on all the accounting stuff and then work through to help you get license with this. You know, I'm sitting there on a call and I'm watching because there's no with the CPA license, there's no way to get around doing the work you got to study. Yeah, you have to study. So there is, I remember when I was going through the process, me and my accountability partner, and we were laughing because we were she every morning, I woke up between five and six, and we were on a zoom call for about two hours every morning and an hour in the evening, studying, answering questions, my God, reading the book, answering questions. And we had, you know, we did it in parts, right? So I think I had passed the part. I was one part ahead of her, so I stopped me and her stop being accountability partners when I was done, and she ended, she did. She passed. The last part ended up passing. And we were talking about it, and we were like, you know, we need to tell our story, because we took classes in Dallas, Texas. I was going back and forth to Dallas for the weekend, staying in a hotel room with my son. Yeah, I was in a classroom eight in the morning. One class was eight in the morning to 11 o'clock at night. And the woman told me that's not the longest class. The longest she's done was to two o'clock in the morning, eight o'clock in the morning. What until two o'clock in the morning, studying? What taxes are you doing? Then? No, it's that. No, it's studying. It's preparing for the exam. So in preparing for the exam going over because you don't know what content they're going to test you on. So you have to be familiar and know, understand the call of the question

Julian Rosado 24:32
from a large pool. How long is the exam?

Leaha Crawford 24:34
Four hours. Each exam is four hours? No, each exam, yes, I have four hours when you leave out the exam. And actually it's funny, because I was doing this radio show when I was taking it, when I was studying, and I was doing radio shows, I was working and doing everything, and I remember co host at the time, she was like, You look like you're whipped. I said, I am, but I got to go back, because I got to study. Me, I gotta keep on studying. She said, You gonna pass? I was like, I don't feel like it. And I didn't feel like it, yeah, because it was, it was a lot, yeah. But what I can tell you is, stayed with it, kept doing it, kept doing it, because I could see the end. And now,

Leaha Crawford 25:17
two, three years post the exam, about to help other people you know, with the exam. So for more information, if you like to get more information about it, please contact me. 702-382-5737 again.

Leaha Crawford 25:31
702-382-5737, and I can tell those stories real life people in a lot I have another girlfriend, you know, congratulations to Kim Randall, she is getting her nursing degree. She gets it actually, on next week, but watching a woman go back to school and to get her nursing degree to become a nurse, yeah, and sitting down and doing

Julian Rosado 25:55
the work, yeah, that's why people don't worry about your eight it doesn't No

Leaha Crawford 25:58
no, and she's not, she's older. And you know, if it's something that you really want, go for, it it's not too late. Yeah, it's not too late. And whatever your story

Julian Rosado 26:10
is, yeah, happiness does not wait,

Leaha Crawford 26:12
no, and, but honestly, but you can be happy in the midst of because I had finding happiness in the middle of studying for all of that. And we would, when I tell you, we would laugh at the problems we was like. So why did how that makes sense?

Leaha Crawford 26:26
So why is that one wrong? You got to be kidding me, but just being able to laugh through the process made it not as grueling. But no, we put in the work. Wow, we put in the work, you know. So, so what you gonna do for the new year?

Julian Rosado 26:41
What you got? Well, my sister's here, and so her boyfriend, oh, man, she so she goes to Stanford, yes, and so she brought her Stanford boyfriend here. I'm gonna meet him today, so we don't know. Okay, we'll see.

Leaha Crawford 26:57
She got four brothers. That's gonna be funny. She has four brothers, all right. Well, you've been listening to growth and grace. I am Leah Crawford, this is and I can tell you guys, look, we got a lot of stuff planned. This year is going to be some amazing shows. Again, if there was something that you would love to learn about, please contact us. 702-382-5737, again, 702-382-5737. 023825737, all right, 2026, we ready to take off? Yeah, make this thing happen. Yes, peace and blessings. Bye.

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